心理导读:2008年5月12日14时28分04秒 ,四川省阿坝藏族羌族自治州汶川县发生里氏8.0级地震,地震造成69227人遇难,374643人受伤,17923人失踪。 ---www.tspsy.com
家排治疗:汶川地震心理援助的启示
汶川地震,也称2008年四川大地震,发生于北京时间(UTC+8)2008年5月12日(星期一)14时28分04秒,震中位于中国四川省阿坝藏族羌族自治州汶川县映秀镇与漩口镇交界处、四川省省会成都市西北偏西方向92千米处。根据中国地震局的数据,此次地震的面波震级达8.0Ms、矩震级达8.3Mw(根据美国地质调查局的数据,矩震级为7.9Mw),破坏地区超过10万平方千米。地震烈度可能达到11度。地震波及大半个中国及亚洲多个国家和地区。北至辽宁,东至上海,南至香港、澳门、泰国、越南,西至巴基斯坦均有震感。
海灵格在2008年马来西亚工作坊的话:
我们在此也被地震生还者为失去家人而痛不欲生的图片深深震撼。
we here, too, were deeply moved seeing the pictures of distress of the survivors of the earthquake, mourning for their lost family members.
通常,刚刚蒙难的人最有力量去面对他们的厄运;未直接蒙难的救助者力量相对较小。
Usually, the people immediatly stricken have the greatest strength to face their calamity. Helpers who are not immediatly struck have lesser strength.
所以,对幸存者伤痛的帮助应仅限实际生活层面。
Therefore, help for the survivors in their distress should be mainly on a practical level.
救助者不应让自己担上同样的伤痛,虽然作为人,他们很容易与受难者感同身受。
Helpers should not take upon themselves a similar distress, even, on a human level, they deeply feel with the victims.
在情感层面,人们在悼念痛失所爱的人时需要的第一样东西是:当他们集结了所有相关的伤痛去抒发悲恸感,他们需要有人陪伴在身边,并且毫不干扰这个抒发的过程,比如,不要去安抚。
On the emotional level, what people mourning for their loved ones need first is, someone staying close to them when they want to grieve with all the pain involved, without interfering, e.g. by trying to console them.
当悲恸被允许释放所有的痛感,会对灵魂产生舒缓帮助作用。
Once grief is permitted with all its pain, it has a relieving effect on the soul.
当他们将悲恸全然抒发,便会发觉更容易找到力量去应付眼前需要处理的事务。
After they have expressed their grief fully, they find more easely the strength to cope with the tasks lying ahead of them.
面对如此戏剧化的情形,我也只敢说这些。
This is all that I dare to say in such a dramatic situation.
(文/海灵格 | 来源/新浪博客)